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Taming the elephant: mental fortitude as the key to unlocking your potential

Following episode six of #TIATalks, former TIA contestant Memory Zimba continues the conversation about the crucial importance of intention over mere goal setting, the challenges of overcoming self-doubt, and the journey toward mental fitness that ultimately leads to success.

In her reflective piece, she explores the personal hurdles she faced, and the wisdom gained through her time on the TIA platform.

The elephant in the room

Are you ready to face your own “elephant in the room”? My TIA journey in 2020 was a crucible, forging my understanding of true potential. It highlighted the power of intention over mere goal setting. My goal was to qualify as an actuary, a long, arduous road. But my intention was deeper: to prove my intelligence. This distinction is key for every TIA hopeful. Goals are targets, while intentions are fuel, revealing our insecurities.

I battled imposter syndrome. Failing third year shattered my identity as “the smart one”. A gap year in Dubai, meant to offer respite, amplified self-doubt. I glimpsed a life of ease, questioning my actuarial dreams and my purpose. The lines between self, career, and life purpose blurred. Was actuarial science my true calling? Did my understanding of success need to evolve?

Dubai became a turning point. As a girl from rural Zambia, luxury wasn’t about personal gain. It was about breaking barriers. My ordinariness could inspire other girls like me. I sought mentors, but my own academic struggles whispered doubts. I ultimately qualified in 2019, the fear still present, because my intention – the legacy of a villager reaching for five-star heights by becoming an actuary – was stronger than my fears.

TIA amplified this. The pressure revealed our vulnerabilities. My “elephant in the room” moment arrived. Faced with criticism, the urge to quit was powerful. But I realised: it wasn’t my presence, but my reaction. I chose to stay, for myself.

That day taught me mental fluidity – adapting, maintaining composure, and visualising victory. “Every day, in every way, I am getting better, better, better,” became my mantra.

The “elephant” clarified my why, who, and what. Why compete? For myself. Who for? Myself. What would it give me? Growth. This clarity fuelled my resilience. When a judge’s vote felt unfair, it ignited a fire within me. The lioness within roared, and I refused to back down. Winning that final challenge wasn’t just about the competition; it was about reclaiming my self-belief, proving that victory is possible even against the odds.

TIA reinforced the critical role of mental fitness. Just as I prioritise physical health, I nurture my mental well-being. Solo travel became powerful for self-discovery. Even after “winning”, I sought a retreat to strengthen self-emotional control – a hallmark of leadership.

Daphna Horowitz’s questions are essential: “Why are you doing this? Who is it for? What will it give you?” Honest answers, free from fear, require mental clarity. Our minds are powerful but also susceptible to negative thoughts and imposter syndrome. Remember: your fears are not indicators of your future; they are simply a product of your conditioning.

For every TIA hopeful: 2025 can be your year. Embrace authentic self-expression. Shatter those glass ceilings. Condition your mind for success. Dream audaciously. Cultivate positive thoughts and visualize your dreams manifesting. There are no obstacles, only opportunities.

Key takeaways for TIA success

  • Intention over goal: discover the “why” behind your aspirations.
  • Embrace the “Elephant”: face challenges head-on. They are your greatest teachers.
  • Mental fluidity: practice emotional agility, self-control, and visualisation.
  • Seek mentors: learn from those who have conquered similar challenges.
  • Prioritise mental fitness: invest in your mental well-being.
  • Challenge your conditioning: recognise that fears are not reflections of your potential.
  • Ask the big questions: regularly reflect on your “why”, “who”, and “what”.
  • Dream audaciously: believe in your limitless potential.

Mental fitness isn’t a reaction to setbacks; it’s the bedrock of true success. It’s about knowing your “why”, embracing your authentic self, and conditioning your mind for a future of boundless possibilities. Conquer your elephant and unleash your TIA superpower.